tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.comments2023-09-29T01:12:53.874-07:00Black Mother, Black WomanUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-59439858197327006262017-09-24T08:48:45.479-07:002017-09-24T08:48:45.479-07:00We offer a premium Security Guard Services in Shef...We offer a premium Security Guard Services in Sheffield to guard against theft and disruption. Based in Sheffield and London, but working throughout the UK.<br /><a href="https://vigilantguards.co.uk/" title="Security Guard Services in Sheffield" rel="nofollow">Security Guard Services in Sheffield</a><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09083646371929333945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-88956646196494221022014-06-13T16:40:57.315-07:002014-06-13T16:40:57.315-07:00yikes, looks natural enough to us so why complainyikes, looks natural enough to us so why complainomalone1https://www.blogger.com/profile/17223499587433510733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-45357062267313262002012-03-29T11:13:43.557-07:002012-03-29T11:13:43.557-07:00To the dad who makes his children face the wall an...To the dad who makes his children face the wall and bend over, that has to be one of the most disturbing things i've heard in this sort of dialogue. That's so incredibly humiliating to a child. Children might be hard to manage at tuimes but they're human beings. How would any of us feel if an authority figure who had compete rights over us treated us that way? We claim that we're protecting our kid from being victimized by white authorities later by teaching them to submit to us. Isn't that incredibly hypocritical? So if we humiliate and cause them pain first, it's ok? Parents should not be the lesser of two evils. They should be a source of support, guidance and firm, but tender, love. Instead of looking to one verse in Proverbs, why not look to Christ who is decidedly the Being we're supposed to emulate if we hold Christian beliefs? Clearly, because He's the one who's the most difficult to emulate, and it's easier to justify taking out our own frustrations on kids and pointing to one verse from the OT that we've been misinterpreting all this time in the first place. not to mention that in terms of translation, I've read that the word "rod" in this case means measurement...as in boundaries...teaching them about ranges of behavior that will bring about certain results.<br />How has corporal punishment helped the Black community? Are we really doing so well that we can claim success? And do we really believe that the Black kids who are shooting, causing harm, going to jail aren't also being spanked (hit) or worse by their parents? Their issue is not that they're getting time outs and that's why they're getting into trouble.<br /><br />The person who stated that time outs aren't exactly easy for children has it right. We have to educate ourselves collectively about what is developmentally appropriate for children in all their stages.<br /><br />We're basically reinforcing the idea that avoidance is the only way to success and safety, which is doing them a huge disservice. We're never going to do better en masse until we take the time and use the energy to learn how to deal with kids we're having trouble with, learn that immediate compliance might not be the ideal mode of helping a child modify his/her behavior, and instead guide our kids, forgiving them when they're in bad moods, petulant, break something, disrespectful, whatever. Teach them how to manage their emotions and actions as they're able at any given age, and instill in them the idea that not only are their bodies not objects for *anyone* to touch in a harmful way (this is critical), but that there are other ways to deal with racism later on when they're profiled by the police, etc. Give them tools to use their emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence to handle and transform their situations, not conform out of pure fear. Populations might survive if they learn to live under the radar but they won't thrive.<br />There are other ways. Other populations are thriving without using corporal punishment. And how sick is it to think that because our kids are already victimized by racism, it necessitates victimizing them further so they'll "act right"?Wordslingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12741530041672449723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-78679244840730421452011-11-12T21:52:53.457-08:002011-11-12T21:52:53.457-08:00That is ridiculous! I have 4 children and could NE...That is ridiculous! I have 4 children and could NEVER even think of selling them for any amount of money if I had to starve for the rest of my life. Children are a precious gift from God and should not be bought and sold.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-55224510198533376702011-11-01T11:50:58.761-07:002011-11-01T11:50:58.761-07:00This just helps in telling the story of why health...This just helps in telling the story of why health insurance is so important. ER's across this country are filled with uninsured or underinsured individuals that do not have access to adequate healthcare, they are then "in the way" of the true emergencies. This is not a new epidemic either, people have been using ER's for basic medical care for decades!!!! Praying for the emotional healing of this family.MrsJohnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05918172610112332264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-69606633300021087202011-10-31T14:18:31.707-07:002011-10-31T14:18:31.707-07:00It really breaks my heart to know that kids have t...It really breaks my heart to know that kids have to suffer from adults mistakes. When you take your kids to the emergency room for a bruise or something they call CPS and accuse the parents of child abuse or if the child is underweight or left in an area for a minute or two they call it child neglect, but when a child comes to them sick and they neglect to see what is wrong or even attempt to see what is wrong, then they(doctors/nurses) are just as worse as the parents who are abusing and neglecting their kids.The doctors and nurses need to do better in any and all situations when it comes to an infant being sick and brought into the ER because an infant cannot talk and say what is wrong with them, so when a parent brings a child into a hospital for emergency help and they do not know what is wrong, I feel that the doctors and nurses should at least check them to make sure that there is nothing seriously wrong with that child. My prayers goes out to baby Malyia and family!! God Bless!!blackbutterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03590738725380021848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-26195449271554380062011-10-31T13:56:13.172-07:002011-10-31T13:56:13.172-07:00I have children with disabilities an I wish this l...I have children with disabilities an I wish this life on no one those doctors should be ashamed of themselves. This is a horrific tragedy that could have been prevent. Blessings and strength to this beautiful child and her family.princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16871378222364625274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-77881507318310316622011-10-31T11:15:27.557-07:002011-10-31T11:15:27.557-07:00This is so sad. No amount of money can compensate ...This is so sad. No amount of money can compensate for that lil babies body parts. Someone should loose their license and job because of this. A new case for National Health Care. I have had to have emergency treatment and I had to wait 5 hours, I had breathing problems. If it were not by the grace of God I could have died there. Hospitals have become desenstized to pain and suffering. <br /><br />If you look closely you can see a that a tear has rolled down on the babies face. So sad, so sad, this brings tears to my eyes. I hope that the person(s) responsible for this has a vision of this child forever.bcdbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12843662857829263765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-71662569856702389102011-10-31T09:24:47.011-07:002011-10-31T09:24:47.011-07:00Bet that baby's family doesn't belong to t...Bet that baby's family doesn't belong to the 1%. The whole system needs overhauling.Lares Revolthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07714471368975776797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-9536585144333247942011-10-31T09:20:46.601-07:002011-10-31T09:20:46.601-07:00If this patient had no "paid" health ins...If this patient had no "paid" health insurance. this "could" establish a new standard of health care for the uninsured. That learned? IF you want health care, you had better have insurance! Now that's the big IF!Elliotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04906255349371025210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-14739908766657780162011-10-31T08:07:59.958-07:002011-10-31T08:07:59.958-07:00This is an absolute shame. That poor baby. As a pa...This is an absolute shame. That poor baby. As a parent I can tell you that you can't put a pricetag on my child's livelihood. Yes I would expect my baby to be well compensated but I couldn't honestly tell you an amount of money I think would suffice. This is just sad. God bless that baby and her family. SMH.Om3gahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17867928406096146210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-63118163151828105302011-10-31T07:13:18.987-07:002011-10-31T07:13:18.987-07:00Freaking ridiculous. Why does this foolishness pe...Freaking ridiculous. Why does this foolishness persist.Ms. Metaflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07930505272225525847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-88486227382722764332011-09-12T16:44:55.002-07:002011-09-12T16:44:55.002-07:00As a general rule I don't think corporal punis...As a general rule I don't think corporal punishment is necessary in most cases and past a certain age, definitely not. Whatever form of discipline a parent chooses to employ it must be consistent, bottom line and no pun intended. <br /><br />You cannot reason with a two-year old about to run out into the street or in the throes of a temper tantrum. A seven-year-old should know better. Persistent misbehavior after talking to and time out than some corporal punishment is warranted.The Shytroverthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14410151029361867421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-15281421790575224542011-09-12T06:31:00.580-07:002011-09-12T06:31:00.580-07:00By intentionally inflicting pain on those smaller ...By intentionally inflicting pain on those smaller than us we teach several lessons, the most important one being: inflicting pain on someone we disagree with is an appropriate option. Our children apparently learn that lesson well, as interpersonal violence (not to mention murder) is higher among African-Americans than among any other group. Hurting smaller beings who can't reciprocate also speaks to issues of power symmetrics, reinforcing the imperialistic notion that the strong have a "right" to dictate to the weak; i.,e, the US has a "right" to invade countries with whom we differ and "whoop" them into shape.Bopcityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10854665814411506575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-57110381693836108472011-09-10T06:31:47.075-07:002011-09-10T06:31:47.075-07:00I really appreciate the part of the article that s...I really appreciate the part of the article that says we can honour our families, communities and ancestors - and that part of that is knowing when (and how) to do better.Zhana21https://www.blogger.com/profile/01493863144605527837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-85344560565553575002011-09-10T05:52:11.238-07:002011-09-10T05:52:11.238-07:00It is wrong to use violence against children. It ...It is wrong to use violence against children. It is immoral. Hitting children is abuse, it is not different from abuse. Do your children hit you when you do something wrong? I think not. It's about power. You can use other effective methods to motivate your children to do what you want them to. When people say using violence is "effective", they are just looking at the short term. They are ignoring the long-term psychological effects of physical abuse. White people used violence during slavery because it was an effective way to force people to do what they wanted. Violence and intimadtion are not the answer, it stores up a whole heap of problems in the long term.Zhana21https://www.blogger.com/profile/01493863144605527837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-11372523108517023452011-09-09T12:39:53.399-07:002011-09-09T12:39:53.399-07:00I remember my Mother saying; "You'll get ...I remember my Mother saying; "You'll get whipped somewhere. Be it here, outside on the streets, or in a jail cell. If I don't do my job as a parent, you will get an altogether different whipping. I would rather you get that whipping in love, from me." I believe that. I would rather spank my child in love, than have them grow up, rude and defiant, and someone else "beat" them. I have a nice ruler to pop their hands, and that usually gets them in check. I use "consequences and actions" with my older children, and hope that what I have instilled in them, stays. Last, but certainly not least, I pray to God everyday to protect my babies. The world is a harsh place, and they need someone higher than me.DivaMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03314379819764065624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-32021569561351487312011-09-09T12:30:49.021-07:002011-09-09T12:30:49.021-07:00These kids grow up to be abusive people. Kids tau...These kids grow up to be abusive people. Kids taught to "hit" first and ask questions later is what is wrong with our society. We dont even know how to have civil conversation when we dont agree with something. Yes i was spanked when I was child and most times it was not fair. My grandmother beat me with switch because we were playing hide and seek ... and to this day I dont know why. My parents had asked me not to stop and play on the way home from school, well I did that once to often and got a whipping. I could understand that, but I could not understand what my grandma did.I loved my parents and I wanted their approval on my good behavior ... as I think most kids do.Fundraising with Hostashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10945179196731864720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-52816628319459660042011-09-09T12:09:22.143-07:002011-09-09T12:09:22.143-07:00There is a difference between spanking and abuse, ...There is a difference between spanking and abuse, let's get that straight!! Most that were spanked in a responsible manner and I was one grew to be responsible people, bottom line. Time out is a joke and does nothing to discipline kids. If we do not spank our kids the cops will do it. If we do not spank our kids to teach right from wrong the they will be subjected to penal punishment or even capital punishment, but that's what they want. How many Black kids kill their parents in respect to White kids killing theirs?? Because White kids do not fear a strong reprisal. They just think they will get TIME OUT, but not in the way that their mentality is used to!!!Floydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13721850450350927266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-17456805397059597422011-09-09T10:44:46.003-07:002011-09-09T10:44:46.003-07:00Not sure I wholly understand - Well for starters t...Not sure I wholly understand - Well for starters that phrase is NOT found in the Bible. It actually comes from a 17th century love poem (The Hudibras) that has misled generations of folks into thinking that God requires that spanking be the only biblically-sanctioned form of disciplining children.<br /><br />As literal as I typically am, spare the rod spoil the child is more than likely an abbreviated version of Proverbs 13:24 <br /><br />I certainly believe in spanking/corporal punishment NOT Abuse. I was spanked, I spanked my daughter and we are fine citizens. I see some bad behind kids in public and I just wonder what the outcome will be at age 14 and 15 for those tyrants. Are these the children that murder their parents for now beginning to say No, when they should have said and enforced it at age 2? Just my two cents.Aunt Delta Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14435449343598794451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-34857287783145434072011-09-09T10:07:55.031-07:002011-09-09T10:07:55.031-07:00I think that we don't talk about how our paren...I think that we don't talk about how our parents loved us enough. It's kind of hard to make that sound funny in conversations, unless you're actually funny ;)satsanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03962626641848917916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-15371216837013611692011-09-09T06:45:18.409-07:002011-09-09T06:45:18.409-07:00Passage Proverbs 13:24:
24He that spareth his ...Passage Proverbs 13:24:<br /><br /> 24He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. <br />We can try other methods but if all else fails then a spanking may take place.kirealplshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13465077969904377069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-6935121741937083362011-09-09T06:39:11.995-07:002011-09-09T06:39:11.995-07:00My wife is weary of spanking. I am not. When she...My wife is weary of spanking. I am not. When she is fed up with the ineffectiveness of her Dr.Phil approach I am called in like a star reliever for the Yankees. I am always the bad guy but so what someone has to do it. There was a day where I was at the barber shop with my family. I was talking to a friend when I heard my wife calling (screaming) my son's name. He was not paying attention and was about to run right into traffic. He ignored my wife's calls but as soon as I noticed what was happening I yelled his name except he knew that he could not ignore me. He is alive and well today in college. I understand that there is a thin line between spanking and abuse and that spanking should not be a first resort but I have found it to be a powerful but last resort. Life is messy and you cannot always negotiate with a child.american madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038242581405528212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-1538593978317598312011-09-09T04:14:35.017-07:002011-09-09T04:14:35.017-07:00Daddio Speaks....there needs to be some form of &#...Daddio Speaks....there needs to be some form of 'control' in the household. My childhood was abuse to the inth power but I chose not to do that. I did choose to discipline my children and corporal punishment was chosen as the tool. I just distributed it different than my parents did. That running around after the child, swatting to hit whatever was available, is not the way. I chose to have the child stand face to the wall, with their behind out and striking according to thier age. If done right and early, that child will see that as he/she gets older, they increase. Annd it does hurt the parent more than it hurts the child....if you truly love that child.Discipline must start when that child leaves the hospital. Not the physical aspect but letting the infant know who's in charge. <br />I believe it's the parents right to do this. Or do you think it should be OK for the authorities to do whatever they want to do in the prisons, where the parent isn't inside to watch 24/7? Get my book, A Guide for Mothers who have to be Fathers...<br />Greg Daffin...GregDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032762476293497435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5420943939351304236.post-77093802994494350792011-09-09T00:45:35.536-07:002011-09-09T00:45:35.536-07:00@Nat Turner Chronicles. You've started out all...@Nat Turner Chronicles. You've started out all wrong as to who was punishing whom. As for whooping children. There are laws against it. Don't let adults hit children. They should be jailed! African Americans are mentally destroyed in every possible way and without proper nurturing and education the masses are lost. We won't recover from any of this and those who have found happiness in this sordid world are less fortunate than they think...Good luck!WizardGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06012402530696563569noreply@blogger.com